Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Well, here we are...

Issues with Blackberry

OK - work has provided me a blackberry for use during on-call times. And being available via email basically 24x7. All fine, I'm enjoying it. Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of time to play with it. So..

Today, I'm going to go get my hair cut for the first time in about 14 months. I have two pics on my computer... and don't know how to share them with the stylist. My color printer is doing primarily pinks & yellows - not a good look.

Can't figure out how to copy files to the BB yet - I've got the Desktop Manager up, seems like that's the place to start - but it's saying I don't have current software on the device.

Next thought? I'm putting them on the blog & then I'll just use the blackberry to come here and show her - LOL!

So, I like the length of the longest of the two - and I like the bangs from the shortest of the two - can't swear that either would look good on me... but this is what I'm trying to go for.

So, now you're probably going to want me to snap a pic after hair cut? Wish me luck!

Tuesday, April 29, 2008

Room Call - 4/29/2008

Make a list of each room or area in your house then next to it, put one of the following?

Hit by an ATOMIC bomb
Hit by a bomb
Decluttered but not cleaned
Cleaned but not organized
Organized but not detailed
Detailed and on maintenance mode.

If you have a room in blue, work on it first to bring it back to green. Then work on your red rooms and move down the list by colors.

Here is my list:

Master bathroom ~ Detailed and on maintenance mode
Master Bedroom ~
Cleaned but not organized
Hallway ~ Detailed and on maintenance mode.
a's room ~ Hit by an ATOMIC bomb
Kitchen ~
Cleaned but not organized
Front Bath ~
Cleaned but not organized
Office area ~
Cleaned but not organized
Living Room ~
Cleaned but not organized
Dining Room ~
Hit by a bomb
Front Door ~
Detailed and on maintenance mode.

Progress... My bedroom & the living room are in much better shape. Still need to do purging & serious cleaning in "a"s room. Have been spot-cleaning carpet. Unfortunately, I'm doing too well right now (sort-of) as I now have small clean spots in a dirty carpet - LOL!

Trying to light a fire

I was overly, completely exhausted this morning. Ended up oversleeping. Part of it was I was up late last night fretting over my sore leg. I took some tylenol (one regular, one pm) and could not wake up out of the fog.

I'd also been stressing a bit over "A"... and decided to take the day off and focus on helping him try to reach some goals.

  • We took "a" to daycare.
  • Scheduled a hair appt for me - I'm back to 20 " of no style whatsoever, except possibly old hippie - which I hate, so we'll try to get a style - again.
  • "A" got his license (fourth try, but hey, at least he's legal now)
  • Bought a "beater" - a 95 Ford Thunderbird that probably inhales gas & oil... but it runs, and it's only $1500... and it's an automatic, which means I CAN DRIVE for a change. I'm going to drive the beater for the next month or so... or at least until I have better control & strength with my left leg.
  • He applied at a temp agency.
  • I exchanged a movie that's been sitting in the car (eek) for 14 months
  • AND - I even got some laundry done
In my opinion - we got stuff done. Plus if "A" gets called to do some work through the temp agency, we won't have to deal with - "but I have to pick my mom up at 6:00 pm" issues.

Next, I'm making a schedule for "A" to follow so that the days don't get away from him and he ends up doing pretty much "nuttin" all day instead of being motivated and eagerly seeking a new job. "waiting for it to fall in his lap" --- geez! You think I got where I did with waiting around to see what happens?

Monday, April 28, 2008

Nothing much

No new medical scares. Still not quite as flexible as they'd like. My 3 week goal was 130 degrees bend; it's now officially the start of week 5, and I'm up to 108 degrees. But, still progressing. Got a little stalled out for a while, but am pushing past it. It's not very painful except when I'm pushing it. The leg muscles tire easily... but otherwise, we're doing well. I'm still walking with a slight limp - more out of bad walking habits gained while in an immobilizer. I can walk normally if I'm really VERY focused on it, but if I have any other thoughts in my head, ... well, it takes a lot of work to remember how to walk correctly.

A is still not working... I'm going to have to help him figure out how to get is *ss out and applying. He's basically reached the point where he is no longer applying for jobs - somehow he thinks that one will just 'happen'. While things can just happen, they happen faster for those who seek out the opportunities than they do for the ones that are sitting on the computer playing computer games. Seriously!

a is having fun at daycare - whether he admits it or not. He's a little ornery, awfully cute, and for the most part pretty well behaved. He does have a bit of an argumentative streak in him, LOL --- wonder where he got that????

I'm slowly looking for a new apartment. I've got several listed as options. Biggest worry I have is if they check my credit report (which many do) and find me incredibly lacking. I know my credit rating & record are bottom of the pit. But, I am working on it. My bills are all kept current, the issue I have is the debts that piled up over the past years... and I am paying it down... it's just that there are 10 creditors and they all think that they should get paid first... and more money. I'm paying approx $1500 per month on debts (half my take-home pay)... and split out across 10 creditors, that's only $150 each. The ones that want more money are taking me to court. One of the creditors got a garnishment that has since ended. While they were taking $1000 out for each month, I could only pay the remaining creditors about $500/month - split by 9 it looks like I'm not paying what I was. Now, one of those creditors wants to take me to court. Go figure. I'm still making payments, as much as I can, when I can. I just can't help that every creditor wants me to ignore the other creditors. It's a slow process, but I've paid off almost $5000 of the debt in only about 18 months... so I am making progress.... but I still owe another $25K or so left. Since all of these creditors are showing up negative on my credit report - I'm in the dog house as far as credit goes. Here's hoping it won't keep me from getting an apartment closer to work and in a decent school district.

Friday, April 25, 2008

New MeMe

This one is going around again on email. You put an X for each item you've done, then answer the questions below. To make it NEW again, let's say it has to have been in the past ten years.

(X) Gone on a blind date

() Skipped school

(X) Watched someone die

(X) Been to Canada

() Been to Mexico

(X) Been to Florida

(X) Been on a plane

(X) Been lost

(?) Been on the opposite side of the country — what’s opposite? I live in the middle!

(X) Swam in the ocean

(X) Cried yourself to sleep

(X) Played cops and robbers

(X) Recently colored with crayons

() Sang Karaoke

(X) Paid for a meal with coins only?

(X) Done something you told yourself you wouldn't?

() Made prank phone calls

() Laughed until some kind of beverage came out of your nose

(X) Caught a snowflake on your tongue

(X) Danced in the rain

(X) Written a letter to Santa Claus

(X) Been kissed under the mistletoe

(X) Watched the sunrise with someone you cared about

(X) Blown bubbles

() Gone ice-skating

() Been skinny dipping outdoors

(X) Gone to the movies by yourself

1. Any nickname? mommeeee
2. Mother's name? Milly
3. Favorite drink? Pepsi
4. Tattoo? None
5. Body piercings: Just the ears
6. How much do you love your job? Totally
7. Birthplace? Iowa, the state of perfect nothingness.
8. Favorite vacation spot? Any Beach
9. Ever been to Africa? No
10. Ever eaten cookies for dinner? Yes
11. Ever been on TV? Yes
12. Ever steal any traffic signs? Yes
13. Ever been in a car accident? Yes
14. Drive a 2-door or 4-door vehicle? 4 door
15. Favorite salad dressing? Oily Italian (as opposed to creamy)
16. Favorite pie? Banana Cream
17. Favorite number? none
18. Favorite movie? While You Were Sleeping
19. Favorite holiday? Christmas
20. Favorite dessert? Snickers Blizzard
21. Favorite food? Probably too many - start with Chili, Goulash, Steak
22. Favorite day of the week? Saturday
23. Favorite brand of body wash? Softsoap Cashmere

23.5 Favorite Hand wash? Dial Yogurt Vanilla & Honey
24. Favorite toothpaste? Aquafresh
25. Favorite smell? Was Melon & Citrus, now Vanilla & Honey
26. What do you do to relax? Knit, read, play mindless computer games.
27. How do you see yourself in 10 Years? With another teenager - Yipes!!! I have to go through this again?
28. Farthest Place you will send this message? Blogger
29. Who will respond to this the fastest? Only one who probably will is Phil

Polynesian MeatBalls

Here's the recipe...

Polynesian-glazed Meatballs

OK - Have to admit, mixing BBQ sauce & pineapples REALLY did not sound like something that would "go over". But, it was delish! This is the second time we're having them.

Of course, picky "A" had his without any veggies... but he liked the sauce as well. And to be honest? It's 10 minutes to prep - with less than 30 minutes from freezer/fridge to table. Gotta love those kinds of recipes!

Dinner Planning

Trying this again, as I'm working out the shopping list for "A". I'm up to walking without crutches, but not for long periods of time. I'm not comfortable trying the grocery run yet.

Saturday - Roasted Chicken
Sunday - Spaghetti
Monday - Chicken Tortilla Soup (with left over chicken & chicken broth from the Roasted Chicken)
Tuesday - BBQ Pork chops
Wednesday - Mexican Meatloaf
Thursday - Polynesian Meatballs
Friday - Pizza or Pasta from the hut

No clot!

Must have been the weather, as my leg hurt worse & worse, more & more swollen, and redder yet, until the storm that swept through last night finally hit. Then instantly I felt fine.

The physical therapist today stated that she thought it was odd that I had swelling as well as the pain - that she doesn't usually see that as the weather changes. But, I'm just relieved that it seems to be doing better.

Thursday, April 24, 2008

Blast it!

OK, leg is now turning pink/red... sign number 3 that might mean a clot. Means I have to go get it checked out regardless of test results.

It's good I know the symptoms/warning signs. I hope it's still NOT a clot. But, am feeling quite p*ssed off because I don't want to deal with more health issues.

One step forward, two steps back

Last night, the physical therapist sent me home. First thing, she always asks how the pain is. Well, last night I told her my calf has really been hurting me all day. It's hurt in the past off & on basically just needing to get back in shape. But usually, if I lay off, it feels better... but not yesterday. And, of course, my leg was swollen on top of it. Not badly swollen, but more swollen than it's been for two weeks. Been swollen before, but was getting better the further away from surgery we got... only yesterday, it was more swollen.

So, she's playing the 'better safe than sorry' card... which makes sense. I've gone in today to get my blood tested. If my medicine levels are low - she wants me to go to the ER to get an ultrasound done to see if I've got a leg clot. If the levels are high, she wants me to take it easy and 'wait and see'.

So, I got my blood tested this morning and called the nurse to tell her to be on the look out for the results. When I explained why, she really kind of wanted me to go in immediately to ER for testing... I managed to put her off to wait & see what my test results are. If they are low, I can go right now... if they are high - well, she'll probably try to talk me into going in anyway.

I DON'T WANNA! Do I sound like "a"? Even more? I don't wanna have a new clot. Ugh... especially if my levels are normal. Because if my levels are normal that means I might have to switch medications over to the outrageously priced and nasty daily injections.... I DON'T WANNA! WAH!

OK, done whining. Should hear within an hour or so what the test results are, and we'll see where we go from there.

Oh, and now I have to admit how dumb I am... Since I have never experienced any symptoms or clots in my legs... I had to post a question online with my group if when they say their leg was 'swollen' - did that mean all-over leg swelling? Or kind of back of the leg swelling? Of course, if you really think about it... not-all-over swelling, would probably get described as a 'lump', now wouldn't it? Their answers, of course - all-over swelling. Which is what I have. Bummer. as it means I have two of the four symptoms (the two most common ones at that) of leg clotting, when I'm a clotter & just had a leg injury AND knee surgery both of which are HIGH risk for clotting. BUT, I'm ON THE MEDICINE. And I know full well, that sometimes, even when you're on the medicine you can clot... it's rare, but it can still happen. It just S*CKS is all.

Oh, and if I clot now? That means that they'll probably argue against a hysterectomy - since abdominal surgery is another high clotting risk activity. grrr...

Tuesday, April 22, 2008


I'm at work, and I've been off browsing, so I really don't have time to finish reading this. But, the IKEA post written for the gamer is really hitting home. Since I'm probably going to drag Adam & Alex to IKEA at some point post-move... this is a great one to get Adam psyched to go.

Monday, April 21, 2008

Room Call - 4/21/2008

My "flying" progress. Figure if I post it "out there" I might behave myself better.

Make a list of each room or area in your house then next to it, put one of the following?

Hit by an ATOMIC bomb
Hit by a bomb
Decluttered but not cleaned
Cleaned but not organized
Organized but not detailed
Detailed and on maintenance mode.

If you have a room in blue, work on it first to bring it back to green. Then work on your red rooms and move down the list by colors.

Here is my list:

Master bathroom ~ Detailed and on maintenance mode (ish - needs mopping)
Master Bedroom ~
Hit by a bomb, half of it ATOMIC
Hallway ~ Detailed and on maintenance mode.
a's room ~ Hit by an ATOMIC bomb
Kitchen ~
Cleaned but not organized
Front Bath ~
Cleaned but not organized
Office area ~
Hit by a bomb
Living Room ~
Hit by a bomb
Dining Room ~
Hit by a bomb
Front Door ~
Detailed and on maintenance mode.

My issue is I keep working bits & pieces on my areas, when I really need to focus on a's room, then if his room was clean, he'd want to play in there instead of dragging his toys into every other room (you think? or am I just kidding myself).

Saturday, April 19, 2008

Progress with the house & the knee

I really don't need my crutches any more unless my knee tires out and I have to give it a break. I can put my full weight on it, but it starts to wobble insanely when the muscles get tired. I did finally start seeing more progress in bending - with a ton of pain, I can reach 100 degrees. Comfortable bending is at around 70 degrees, so it'll take time before I get to where they want me... but I'm fighting for it.

I've gotten to where the kitchen & living room are 'maintainable'... not completely de-cluttered, and not completely organized, but not looking like it was hit by a bomb either.

I am truly trying to de-clutter, as I hope to move this summer to a new apartment. I'm dying to have a washer & drying in apartment instead of paying $3.50/load of laundry in quarters. It's such a HUGE pain, between having quarters available, having time to complete the loads when it's open and sharing it with the other five apartments in my building.

I've found several apartment buildings closer to work & in good school districts... and although they are more expensive, they are only about $100 more per month. And gaining washer & dryer is worth it to me.

I put off the move last year, but figure this is the time. Plus, then "a" will be in the right neighborhood so that a year from now, he starts kindergarten in a good school.

My tasks today (besides picking toys up in my bedroom.... which is a never-ending battle...) is to list some teacups & saucers on ebay that my Grandmother gave me. It was a sweet gesture, and she was trying to acknowledge that I was growing up..... but they have NEVER been used, and I'm not particularly fond of them. They were just never 'me'. I kept them because everyone else in my family made a big deal about them... and because, afterall, I did care about my grandmother and she gave them to me out of love. But, when it comes right down to it... they are clutter, and I don't LOVE them. And someone else might. I'm learning how to let go, and this is one that I can handle.

Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Wild, it says?

Your Mind is Purple

Of all the mind types, yours is the most idealistic.

You tend to think wild, amazing thoughts. Your dreams and fantasies are intense.

Your thoughts are creative, inventive, and without boundaries.

You tend to spend a lot of time thinking of fictional people and places - or a very different life for yourself.

Passed the 90 degrees mark

I can finally bend my knee past 90 degrees... just! I made it to 95 degrees tonight in physical therapy. I was so determined to hit that mark (and thought I had the night before on my own).... and I was working really hard through the first two sets of exercises... only to find out I was only at something like 85 degrees. Grr... but it pissed me off enough to push me into the 90's. I'm not done yet, I'm supposed to be closer to 130 degrees already, but at least I'm finally gaining again.

Monday, April 14, 2008

Progress with "A"

He's actively looking for work every week day (except when I'm running him ragged).
He's cooking dinner every evening (without being asked).
He's getting up by 8:00 am every weekday to take me to work & drop "a" off at daycare.
He's doing multiple loads of laundry every week.
He's doing the grocery shopping (and asking me for the list).
He's doing dishes if they need doing, he's picking up if it needs doing, he's vacuuming if it needs doing.

I'm loving it, but I also know that it's only going to be GREAT for a period of time. I know that he & I don't get along well enough to expect this to last for very long. But, it's still REALLY, REALLY nice.

His job search has been tough... not getting anywhere with it. But, it's April - as far as most shopping areas, stores aren't going to be doing a lot of hiring. I think restaurant-wise, around here, that's probably year-round. But most of those hiring now (with the economics the way they are)... are probably those that have high turn around. I've been pushing him more towards temp agencies (which he isn't so keen on yet). Thinking that it will get him exposed to more job opportunities and types of work -- giving him exposure & experience. We'll see.

He had his pre-trial hearing today. They are postponing it until May - the defense lawyer received a warrant to request the 'guy's (that "A" beat up) phone records. As "A"s excuse that it wasn't "Breaking & Entering" nor "trespassing" is that they both had an open-door policy (i.e., neither of them knocked before entering each other's apartments... and in fact, when I still lived in Newton - he would often enter my home without knocking to visit "A"). AND - "A" had gotten a call from him that morning asking him to come over. So, he did... and the door wasn't locked... and so we're trying to get that charge thrown out.

Funny thing is ... the prosecuting attorney has already dropped the assault charges. I assume because he wasn't very seriously injured... some bruises, bloody nose, no stitches, etc.

They are dropping the B&E down to trespassing... but it's still a felony. And the attorney is asking for 5 years in jail. If we can prove that he'd been invited... well, then we're down to nothing... and the defense attorney is still fighting for that. So, hopefully, we'll get lucky with that and this can all just go away.

Saturday, April 12, 2008

Making progress

I'm down to one crutch, and that, just barely. It's there for when the muscles around my knee get tired & start a-quivering. But, then again, I'm still in my leg brace. In another week I should be able to lose both the leg brace & the remaining crutch... like my title states, I'm making progress.

They're really happy that I can straighten my leg completely. Not so happy that I can only bend it about 85 degrees. They wanted me at 130 degrees by now. Um, not even close! My knee is still really swollen (you have to push really hard to find then edges of the knee caps. It feels super-tight - like trying to reach your toes in pants two to three sizes too small. The therapist tried to push me a little harder on Wednesday with the bending - and I was in virtual agony that night & the next day. I still can't bend it as far as before (and this is being posted four days later). Since there are sharp pains happening in the knee, I'm taking it easier now until Monday to try to give it a chance to rest.

Staples come out on Monday - not a minute too soon. I didn't even think about the fact that I tend to have allergic reactions to cheap metal (earrings, rings, that kind of thing). So, guess who is allergic to the metal they use in staples? yeah, great. But, I'm even more allergic to adhesive tape - so instead of trying to get the staples out early and use tape to keep them closed until Monday - we're waiting it out. The rash isn't too bad yet... and it's only two days away. So, my knee itches a lot. I'll survive.

"A" is still searching for work, not having a lot of luck. But, he's also being really good at helping me out right now and we're still on the receiving end of a positive attitude. So, we're still in good shape. He got up early all week without complaint and took "a" and I to work & school. Ran errands, picked us up & cooked dinner. That's pretty good considering how things were last week around here. He even is trying new recipes for me. The 'chef' in him is enjoying trying new meals even if he isn't admitting to it. He's actually ok with cooking dinner as long as he knows 'what to make'. I have to admit, I always hated trying to come up with something to cook myself when I was tired of making the same old meals... so he takes after me there. So, the good news is that my 'meal planning' as such as it is, does help there.

I cheated last 'meal planning session'.... I found an interesting concept... 1 bag, 5 dinners. Again, like last 'meal planning session' - one week of recipes ended up in not all of them being cooked, and being spread over two weeks instead of one. But, eh. It's a start. Here's the web-site...

We tried the chicken & beef bag 1. The Chicken pesto wasn't that great (although the chicken itself turned out very yummy, we just scraped off the pesto). Hadn't thought much about shake & bake, but we'll have that again, as the frozen chicken breasts really were quite juicy & it's a good way to use chicken besides just grilling them. The Polynesian-glazed meatballs were a huge hit. I was doubtful when looking at the recipe, but even Adam loved them. We ended up just using plain meatballs & eating them without the spaghetti sauce/hoagies... although we have enough meatballs left for real spaghetti meal... so that's the current plan. We didn't make the Alfredo chicken, but we're hanging onto the Alfredo sauce & are planning on making regular Chicken Alfredo - with broccoli & sugar snap peas & cauliflower. That's usually a big hit around here, and I'll make my version I know the kids will like instead of trying a new version.

So, we might have to try another of these - 1 bag - 5 meals... although, the name is a bit of a joke. I do believe by the time you add beverages, lunches, etc... you've still got just as many bags as any other shopping trip. But, I like the idea of trying new recipes and being able to print out the shopping list... especially since I'm still having someone else pick up groceries for me. They have lots of other recipes on this and other sites... and this lets you add recipes to your recipe 'box' online so that if you find an interesting recipe, you can 'clip' it and add it to your 'album' for future viewing. Then - if you select a few recipes, you can use it to generate a shopping list. A very nice feature.... and since they let you add other recipes, you can also add them. I'm sure though, it's not as simple as copy & paste from other web sites their recipes.... which would be cool if it did allow that... so you could browse several recipe sites & still get your recipe box all in one place.

Well, I'm done rambling, so I guess it's back to cleaning the house. We had it pretty clean last Sunday, but I really didn't feel like dealing with it all week... and since I had Physical Therapy on Friday, along with running to the hospital for more blood tests and needing to hit the bank - I worked at home on Friday... which mean "a" was home all day. And needless to say, the house is now a pit. Friday, I managed to stop him before it got 'too bad' ... he announced that he was making a cake - which basically involved mixing a bunch of ingredients into the peanut butter jar. I got him out of the kitchen in time to keep it from being a complete disaster... a mess still... but not the worst kid's cake mess I've ever had to clean up.

Monday, April 07, 2008

Any wonder that I'm sick of being at home?

This is the view from my desk at home....

Tried to go to work today.... but go figure, "A" left the lights on in the car for three days and the battery was dead. We tried jumping it, but it wasn't going to happen. Took 6 hours for the tow truck to arrive, and then they did get it to start and didn't have to take it anywhere. Grrrr.....

Too funny

It's actually a REALLY GOOD thing that Phil & I aren't cousins considering I dated her brother.... my bad, I copied her 'source' of the Quiz, and left cousin in.... I saw it the minute I brought the blog up today, and started laughing about it!

And then somehow - don't know how - seriously.... I missed the 'been drunk' check box from the first list! Goodness.... how did I miss that one?

Saturday, April 05, 2008


Courtesy of my cousin ... well, ok - friend! Phil. Don't explain anything and don't judge!!!! Let's have fun and get to know one another!

Level one
() I have had an asthma attack
(X) Smoked A Cigarette
() Smoked A Cigar
(XXX) Been drunk
(X) Been In Love or still in love
(X) Been Dumped
(X) Been Fired
(X) Been In A Fist Fight
(X) Snuck Out Of A Parent's House
Total so far: 7

Level two
(X) Been Arrested or Seen Someone You Know Get Arrested
(X) Made Out With A Stranger
(X) Gone Out On A Blind Date
(X) Had Crush On someone older than you
(X) Skipped School
(X) Went out with A Co-worker/ team mate
(X) Seen Someone / Something Die
Total so far: 12

Level three
(X) Been On A Plane
(X) Thrown Up From Drinking
(X) Eaten Sushi
(X) Been Snowboarding/Skiing
() Been Moshing
(X) Taken Pain Killers
(X) Loved or Lost Someone Who You Can't Have
(X) Been in a bad relationship
Total so far: 19

Level four
(X) Laid On Your Back And Watched Cloud Shapes Go By
(X) Made A Snow Angel
(X) Had A Tea Party
(X) Flown A Kite
(X) Built A Sand Castle
(X) Gone Puddle Jumping
(X) Played Dress Up
(X) Jumped Into A Pile Of Leaves
(X) Gone Sledding
(X) Cheated While Playing A Game
Total so far: 29

Level five
(X) Been Lonely
(X) Fallen Asleep At Work / School
(X) Used A Fake / Someone Else's ID
(X) Watched The sun set/ sun rise
( ) Felt An Earthquake
(X) Kissed A Snake
(X) Been Tickled
(X) Been Robbed / Vandalized
(X) Robbed Someone
(X) Been Misunderstood...
Total so far: 38

Level six
(X) Pet A Deer
(X) Won A Contest
() Been Suspended
(X) Had Detention
(X) Been In A Car/ Motorcycle Accident
() Had / Have Braces
(X) Eaten a whole pint of ice cream in one night
(X) Had déjà vu
(X) Danced in the moonlight
(X) Hated The Way You Look
Total so far: 46

Level seven
(X) Questioned Your Heart
(X) Been obsessed with post-it-notes
(X) Squished Barefoot Through The Mud
(X) Been Lost
() Been To The Opposite Side Of The World
(X) Swam In The Ocean
(X) Felt Like You Were Dying
(X) Cried Yourself To Sleep
Total so far: 53

Level eight
(X) Played Cops And Robbers
(X) Recently Colored With Crayons / Colored Pencils / Markers
(X) Sang Karaoke
(X) Did Something You Told Yourself You Wouldn't
(X) Made Prank Phone Calls
(X) Laughed Until Some Kind Of Beverage Came Out Of Your Nose
(X) Kissed In The Rain
(X) Written A Letter To Santa Claus
(X) Been Kissed Under the Mistletoe
Total: 62

Level nine
(X) Watched The Sun Set With Someone You Care / Cared About
(X) Blown Bubbles
(X) Made A Bonfire
(X) Crashed A Party
(X) Have Traveled More Than 5 Days With A Car Full Of People
(X) Gone Rollerskating / Blading
(X) Had A Wish Come True
( ) Been Humped By A Monkey -- a couple of dogs, but not a monkey
(X) Worn Pearls
(X) Jumped Off A Bridge
Total: 71

Level ten
(X) Seen Dolphins swimming in the ocean
(X) Got Your Tongue Stuck To A Pole/ Freezer/Ice Cube
(X) Kissed A Fish
(X) Worn The Opposite Sex's Clothes
(X) Sat On A Roof Top
(X) Screamed At The Top Of Your Lungs
() Done A One-Handed Cartwheel
(X) Talked on the phone for more than 6 hours
(X) Stayed Up All Night
Total: 79

Level eleven
(X) Picked And Ate An Apple Right Off The Tree
(X) Climbed A Tree
(X) Had / Been In A Tree House
(X) Have been/Are scared To Watch Scary Movies Alone
(X) Seen/heard a Ghost
(X) Have/had More Than 30 Pairs Of Shoes or Flip Flops
(X) Gone streaking
(X) Been to/Visited Someone At Jail
(X) Played Chicken
(X) Been pushed into a pool with your clothes on
Total: 89

Level twelve
(X) Broken a bone
(X) Been Easily Amused
(X) Caught A Fish
(X) Caught A Butterfly
(X) Laughed So Hard You Cried
() Cried So Hard You Laughed
(X) Mooned / Flashed Someone
(X) Had someone Moon / Flash You
Total: 96

Level thirteen
(X) Cheated On A Test
(X) Forgotten Someone's Name
(X) French braided someone’s hair
(X) Been Kicked Out Of Your House
(X) Rode A Roller Coaster
(X) Went Scuba-Diving / Snorkeling
(X) Had A Cavity
Total: 103

Level fourteen
(X) Been Used
(X) Fell Going Up The Stairs
(X) Licked A Cat
(X) Bitten Someone
(X) Licked Someone
(X) Been shot at
(X) Flattened someone's tires
(X) Drove/rode in a car until the gas light came on
(X) Had five pounds or less and bought something
Total: 112

Edited to fix an obvious miss... then like a typical data-analyst (anal) I went through and updated all the totals. It would have been faster to count up the ones unchecked though, me-thinks... 10 - yes 10. No wonder I suck at "I never"... though not as bad as Corley!!!! LOL

Spoke too soon

"A" has decided that maybe I wasn't over-reacting (I think he spent a lot of time chatting with friends who convinced him he was being an idiot, but am not sure). I do know that he apologized. He's getting what will probably be his last chance....

He and I discussed how much I hate asking him to help - how much I wish I could do it all myself and HATE to ask for help, from ANYONE, even him.... but that I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. I also know that griping and complaining and procrastinating is his way of getting out of doing some of the chores - and that I don't ask him to do as much as I'd like to ask him to do - because I hate dealing with all the griping. But that NOT doing the chores only makes me angrier and angrier over the fact that I can't do it. So, the less he does, and the more he gripes, the more pissed I get. And - my last statement - "I don't have to live like this! I don't have to live with you, as I can kick you out!"

He's now starting to tackle chores without being asked - he did eight loads of laundry the other day, took back cans, picked up a package from the office & cooked several meals. It's funny how if I'm not the 'task-master' we can actually not argue the entire time.

We'll see. My expectation is that he'll do good for a few weeks, maybe a month - and then - start slipping again.

On a happier note, "a" is home from his dad's ... and doing really well. He can be a real sweetie when he tries. Last night when it was bed time, he pulled a favorite line of his... 'daddy says' - to explain why he doesn't have to hug & kiss mommy good night... but then he turned around and gave me a hug & kiss good night anyway! He's trashed the living room with 'stuff' three times the first day he was home. But he's turned around & picked up again when forced to. So, we'll get him to come around and quit being such a mess-maker - sooner or later.

Thursday, April 03, 2008

"A" getting kicked out - again

I'm done. He's staying up all night, he's sleeping all day, he thinks "looking for work" counts if he's filled out two applications.

I need a ride to physical therapy tomorrow morning. Knowing that he was up until at least 4 am this morning - I tried to wake him up at 11:00 to try to nudge him back into non-teenage waking hours. It didn't work, so I tried again at 11:30 and again at 12:00. All week I've been getting him up by 12:00 ... but not today. Nope - and I informed him that I wasn't going to give up, but that I was only going to get more annoying until he got up. It became a battle of wills. With "Barney & Friends" playing at 100% volume - he got up (tried to kick me as I stood there with a can of pepsi for him on my crutches)... and unplugged the tv & Cable box knowing that for me to plug them back in takes at least 10-20 minutes of effort.

I told him that if he lays a hand on me - his ass is going to jail. He said he didn't care. He "only wants another hour of sleep" - ok it's now the fourth day since he lost his job, he's only applied to a couple of places for work, and he doesn't see why I have to be 'obnoxious' about getting him out of bed by noon. According to him, I'm being unreasonable.

I told him that I wouldn't have gotten obnoxious if he'd just gotten up as he'd been told and that if he was living with me, he had a choice - either get a job, or go to school... if you are looking for work, sleeping in past noon is NOT ACCEPTABLE... THE END.

Teenage mindset - she's going completely off the wall just because I'm too tired to get up right this minute.

Mother's mindset - you don't have a job, your staying up late & drinking, and for gods sake, I'm not making you get up at 6 am, or even 8 am - but noon - come on! Get up already!

Teenage mindset - after all I've done for you - you can't let me sleep?

So, I cut him a deal - if he wanted to sleep for another hour - it would be the last time he slept in my apartment. He agreed to it - so I shut up.

He's awake right now and checking his email - drinking his first pepsi (he threw the one I gave him an hour ago to the floor where it burst & made a mess). I'm on a conference call at work. As soon as it's done I'm giving him two hours to get out.

I've found a wonderful service that will pick up groceries, drop off laundry, take me to and from my physical therapy for only $25/hour plus gas expenses. AND I won't get told what an ass I am every day and I won't have to fight to get her to wake up in the morning or fight with her over leaving her trash all over my house.

Unfortunately, it's a little too expensive to try to get her to take me to work & "a" to daycare every day - but it was probably a pipe dream thinking I was going to get "A" to do it anyway... he would only have made me miserable if I'd managed to get him up at 8 am five days a week anyway. Hopefully with the physical therapy 3 times a week, I'll be able to drive myself within a few weeks... so it's definitely worth it to try to get this all arranged. My biggest issue is moving things from one place to another - but "a" was trying to help with that when he was here... so it shouldn't be a big deal to keep trying that sort of thing.

A bigger deal is that it's already Thursday of the second week that "a" has been with his father - and "A" did NOT do one thing to help with clearing out some of the stuff in "a"s room. B R A T -- I have been doing all the cleaning - he's been doing half of the cooking - and the shopping. B R A T child! Bitch at me about 'all he's done for me'... I did finally lay it down last night - and he finally did about three loads of laundry - which means, I have to sort the dirty clothes - he carries a load to the washer & runs it, moves it to the dryer & runs it, and brings me back a load of clothes to fold & hang. AND THEN BITCHES because I want him to put his clothes away.

WE SO SHOULD NOT EVER LIVE TOGETHER - we only, EVER, piss each other off.

Wednesday, April 02, 2008

A little late for St Patty's day

What Your Shamrock Says About You

You are brilliant, analytical, and somewhat of a perfectionist. You are ultra competent and knowledgeable.

At times, people find you intimidating. You can be a bit sarcastic and harsh.

You don't really consider yourself a lucky person. In your view, people create their own luck.

You are creative, innovative, and complicated. You definitely have a unique spin on the world.


I didn't have to poke myself today! I'm officially "ok enough" on the oral to not have to do the injections anymore! Yeeahaw! I'm soooo happy. It honestly wasn't the worst thing I've had to do... but am SO happy not to have to do it anymore. And the hints on the 'right' way to do it meant that I really didn't have that much discomfort... maybe only 5 minutes or so compared to hours long pain when I had these shots given to me in the hospital. And - my biggest bruise is about the size of a fingertip instead of baseball/softball sized bruises. So, all in all, WAY better than I expected. WAY better than previous experiences getting these shots from nurses who are supposed to be trained in it.

LOL - the worst shot I gave myself, was when I accidentally hit a nerve, it wouldn't have been so bad, as I instinctively withdrew the needle really quickly. BUT unfortunately, my instincts weren't done then... oh, no... I rejabbed myself a second time in the same place?! WTH?! My hand just kind of took over for my mind, pulled the needle out and stuck it right back in. Hurt like the dickens! Thankfully, by then my mind figured out what an idiot I was and took over - slowly pulling the needle right back out, but then I tried a second location and it was still "upset" or something and was still painful. So more ice and the third spot was pain free. Grr.... bad enough I hit the nerve once, but to do it unconsciously a second time - well, that just sucked!

Next challenge - get my blood levels on the oral meds stable and in range. I tested low... but we're at the same dosage that was sort-of working before I stopped taking it. I posted something similar to my clotting internet list group - about how I figure it'll take more patience to get back into range and stable... and someone who didn't know me told me that yes, every time they've had to go off for surgery or a procedure, it takes them a month to get back in range. Oh, really? My response was something like "if it takes me only a month to get back in range and stable, I'll dance naked at the capital". Good grief, my first time on the meds, I was on them for eight months and NEVER stable. The second time on the meds, it took 10 months before I got in range and stable, stayed stable for two months before it went all wonky again... and then it wasn't stable at the time I went off. So out of 22 months, I have a track record of two months of stability. Not exactly expecting the miracle of only taking a month to get back in sync. Shoot, I'd be happy if it only took three months to get back in sync.

If it takes more than six months - I think I'm going to ask if they can put me on the brand-name version of the meds... for some people who can't get stable, it's better at helping them get stable. There are others who couldn't stick it out even six months the first time through... they are on the shots for life. Uh, no... not my choice if I could help it. If nothing else, the cost of the shots is exorbitant... let alone dealing with the injections every day. But, it isn't just the constant testing you have to do when your not stable ... it's the fact that you are at higher risk for a) medicine not working and still having another stroke/pe or b) medicine suddenly kicking in way too high and having a serious bleeding incident. 5% of the people on my medicine have a serious bleed within the first year... less than 1% will die of it... which is still low risk considering everything else. But it isn't a risk to scoff at. That risk is why I wasn't on the medicine at the time I had my stroke. Since they weren't certain what exactly was happening (and weren't listening to me)... they didn't want to put me on this high risk medicine... well, some doctors didn't want to put me on this high risk medicine... others were suggesting it, but it was getting shot down by the doctors who don't like the risk associated with it.

I'm so glad to be past the surgery and back on the mending trail. I'm going to be sick of physical therapy long before I'm done with it, I'm sure... but eh, it'll be good for me - right?! At this point, I honestly can't wait until I have better use of my legs so I can go back to exercising ... not that a walk across the apartment isn't some exercise. Heck - going down or up the stairs is enough to practically wear me out. But, getting out of the house and into the work out environment is good too. I'm tired of being cooped up at home.

I'm hoping starting next week I can FORCE "A" into taking "a" to daycare and me to the office every day. On the excuse that he can then use the daytime and car to go look for work. Oops - forgot, I didn't post - he got fired from his job. A couple of his employees were stealing from the company... and he got fired because he didn't know enough to know how to make it harder for them. Great, huh? It kind of sucks, because anyone who wants to steal can always figure out a way to do it. And they were already suspicious of these two employees as it was over petty theft... and "A" had already implemented a couple of procedures to try to prevent it, and had suggested that they start filming the employees without their knowledge at the cash register to try to catch them.

Pretty much the entire staff got fired - but I feel bad for "A" and the other co-worker who never stole from the company... he only got fired because one of the ones who had stolen from the company claimed that he had been involved... when "A"s pretty sure she was just it was her just trying to frame this other guy. They tried framing "A" as well, but it didn't take. Not that he didn't lose his job anyway.

Oh, well.. lesson learned. Although he loved the independence this job gave him, his boss was a cheap-skate which is never really good for you long run. But, I like the fact that this job was good work experience for him and really good for his self-esteem. He wants to get even, understandably, so I told him to rat out his boss for the things he knows he's doing illegally. He's buying cigarettes out of state and illegally bringing them in to de-fraud the state on the cigarette taxes; he's mis-labeling the gas in the fuel tanks; he refuses to pay time and a half for overtime; he's constantly screwing up the payroll and underpaying employees.... well, I've told "A" to document all of this each time it happened... and to write down which employees got affected by it.. so he should have evidence. Shoot, you only have to buy a pack of cigarettes to see that they don't have an Iowa tax stamp on them... "A" thinks it's NOT ENOUGH... as this guy is rich and will probably only get fined... but it would be interesting to see that if they find very many issues - that they won't audit him, etc looking for more issues. And that would be a big pain for him...

And, besides, if we get past the 'revenge' piece of it all, it's only right to report things that you see going on illegally... I just hadn't gotten him to the point of reporting his employer when he was so happy in his job. Ya know? But, he might do it now that he's angry with him... and wanting his revenge. And doing a LEGAL thing by reporting a crime is more appropriate than an ILLEGAL thing that lands your *ss in jail! Which I repeat to him almost hourly right now.

Tuesday, April 01, 2008

Starting Physical Therapy

I've called up a place and have my physical therapy scheduled to start tomorrow. Mostly just taking tylenol now for the pain and using ice. Ice is still my best friend.

I tried to start working yesterday... but not sleeping very well at night caught up with me.... it took me almost an hour to get everything (including myself) into the living room to start working. By the time I read emails for half an hour, I was exhausted - and went to bed. Had my ortho appt that afternoon, got home from it and slept until 6pm. I'm feeling MUCH more rested today.

I'm still on the injectable anti-coagulant. But I've gotten started on the oral version. Now, to get blood tests started up again and get into range. I am more than ready to STOP poking myself.