This is overdue....
I found a lacy black sweater that my dog had managed to drag under the bed... not mine.
So, I offer it to my son, asking - is this your girlfriends?
AND he's smart enough to say, that's a loaded question - I can't ask her if it's hers.... because if it is, she'll want to know why I had to ask... and if it isn't hers then I have to explain whose sweater it is.
Smart, right? So, we agree, that we'll leave it out in the dining room, if it's hers, she can say - "oh, there's my sweater" and if it's not, she'll assume it's mine.
So, what does he do? An idiot move and tosses it to her (assuming it's hers).... and it's not - LOL!